How to lose everything and still be happy

I'll bet you American singer-songwriter Pharrell Williams was none too Happy about being ordered to pay the late Marvin Gaye's family $7.5 million after a jury found that his song, 'Blurred Lines' infringed on Gaye's hit, Gotta Give It Up. No doubt, Williams and his co-defendant, Robin Thicke, had to be upset over the court's decision. But that's how happy-ness is.

Happy-ness is circumstantial. It lifts you up when things are going well, and lets you down when they're not. Happy-ness is like a drug addiction. There's that initial 'high' you get when you use for the first time. But then to duplicate the same 'high' you have to keep increasing the amount you consume. Before you realize it, you're addicted. Happy-ness is a drug some people need in order to function in life.

Happy-ness is fleeting. It can turn on a dime. Here's a common scenario. You get a raise on your job that you weren't expecting. That would make most people happy. But soon after your good news, the boss comes back and tells you that the company’s fortunes have changed and you will be losing your job at week’s end. Now, instead of thinking about all the things you could do with the extra money, you start to imagine all the hardships that lay ahead of you with no job and no money.

Happy-ness is an emotional roller coaster with ups and downs, unexpected twists and turns that can keep you off balance. Nowhere is the pressure to be happy more intense than in our relationships with others. Some people are fixated on needing to be happy, and trying to make others happy. Breakups and divorces happen when one or both parties feel the other no longer makes him or her happy.

It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness. —Author Viktor Frankl

A Harris Poll survey revealed that two-thirds of Americans are not very happy. They blamed their unhappy-ness on external issues like the economy, job market, finances, college debt, government policies, particularly, cuts in services. In America, the Declaration of Independence gives us the right to pursue happy-ness. So, why are so many missing the mark?

I believe that we could boil it down to this: we are pursuing happiness, but we are going about it in the wrong way. For most people, their happiness depends entirely on good things happening in their lives. When things are going well, they are happy. When things are not going well, they are unhappy. —Pastor Greg Laurie

In her latest book, Choose Joy: Because Happiness Isn't Enough, author Kay Warren says choosing joy over happy-ness involves making a conscious decision of the will to trust God to handle the details no matter what happens. True joy is everlasting and not dependent upon circumstances. It's a spiritual quality that is internal. As Warren puts it:

Joy is the settled assurance that God is in control of all the details of my life, the quiet confidence that ultimately everything is going to be alright, and the determined choice to praise God in every situation.

I recently learned of a friend's breast cancer diagnosis. When she first told me about it, she smiled this big smile like it [the cancer] was nothing. Still smiling, she added, "God must think I can handle a lot." In addition to cancer, my friend has MS. That she could respond to her situation the way she did is a testimony to her faith in God. After a successful cancer surgery, my friend is now cancer free.

You can bet life will still have its highs and lows, ups and downs either way; but choosing joy over happy-ness helps you ride out the bumps and survive the bruises that come your way.

I am not complaining about having too little. I have learned to be satisfied with whatever I have. I know what it is to be poor or to have plenty, and I have lived under all kinds of conditions. I know what it means to be full or to be hungry, to have too much or too little. Christ gives me the strength to face anything. —Philippians 4:11-13 CEV 

Keep Calm: 5 steps to finding peace in a chaotic world

Bon Secours Retreat Center, Marriottsville, Md 

Peace is a hard commodity to come by these days. People are losing their jobs, their homes, and for some, their life savings at an unprecedented rate. Violence is running rampant in cities and in schools; and families are being torn apart. 

Life seems like a roller coaster speeding precipitously out of control. Natural disasters plague us at home and abroad and war seems unending. Many communities grieve over the lost of so many innocent lives. Wars and civil unrest are erupting all over the world. The Bible predicts that things will get worse before they get better. Matthew 24:7 (CEV) reads: "Nations and kingdoms will go to war against each other. People will starve to death, and in some places there will be earthquakes." Not a comforting picture for sure.

And as if this weren't enough, people's hearts have become cold. 2 Timothy 3:1-4 (CEV) reads: "You can be certain that in the last days there will be some very hard times. People will love only themselves and money. They will be proud, stuck-up, rude, and disobedient to their parents. They will also be ungrateful, godless, heartless, and hateful. Their words will be cruel, and they will have no self-control or pity.

These people will hate everything that is good. They will be sneaky, reckless, and puffed up with pride. Instead of loving God, they will love pleasure. Even though they will make a show of being religious, their religion won’t be real." 

These signs of the times are happening now. Just look at the faces of people today, where's the joy, the love, the peace? People don't smile as much, or extend a hand to help a stranger like they used to. 

The search for peace is instinctive to us all. Everybody wants it but not everybody knows how or where to find it. It can't be found in drugs, alcohol, sex, wealth or fame ---many have tried and died trying. 

Peace is not a place, it's a spiritual state of mind. It's not easy to achieve unless you know how. The search for true, lasting peace in a chaotic world begins with you. Here are five steps to achieving peace in your life.


Step 1 - Trust in God even when everything around you is falling apart. God promises, "You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You. Isaiah 26:3 AMP



Step 2 -  Pray and ask God to guide you. "With all your heart you must trust the Lord and not your own judgment. Always let him lead you, and he will clear the road for you to follow." Proverbs 3:5-6 CEV


Step 3 - Cry out to the Lord and He will answer you. God promises, "Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. For he does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone."  Lamentations 3:32-33
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Step 4 - Believe that God loves you. He showed his love by sacrificing his Son, Jesus, who was put to death on a Cross, as the final payment for your sins. He put it in writing for all to read: "This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life. God didn't go to all the trouble of sending his Son merely to point an accusing finger, telling the world how bad it was. He came to help, to put the world right again. Anyone who trusts in him is acquitted..."  John 3:16 MSG

Step 5 - Accept God's plan of salvation through  Jesus Christ. Peace comes with knowing your sins are forgiven and accepting Jesus Christ into your heart as your Lord and Savior. Romans 6:23 (CEV) says, "Sin pays off with death. But God’s gift is eternal life given by Jesus Christ our Lord."

Knowing where you'll end up after you die puts your soul at peace. This peace is available to you today if you will pray this simple prayer of faith:

Lord Jesus, I believe that you are the Son of God. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. Please forgive my sins and give me the gift of eternal life. I ask you into my life and heart to be my Lord and Savior. I want to serve you always. Amen.

Welcome to God's family. To understand more about your new life in Christ, find a Christian church in your area or go to this website, peacewithgod.jesus.net

Blind Faith

"Then Jesus told him [a blind man], "I have come to judge the world. I have come to give sight to the blind and to show those who think they see that they are blind" (John 9:39).

On my way to work one day, I noticed a well-dressed man with a service animal making his way through a crowded shopping mall. It was obvious that he was blind. I was attracted to him because of the confident way he walked full stride through the Mall virtually ignoring the potential obstacles and human traffic continuously coming at him. I was amazed by how he and his dog sliced and diced their way through the on-rush of morning commuters. I was so intrigued by him that I decided to follow him on his journey.

As I hurried to catch up to him, I watched him walk a few feet, stop, turn to his right and walk over to a food concession stand that was open for breakfast. After taking his place at the back of the line, one by one, other waiting customers stepped aside to let him advance to the front. Being blind he couldn't see what they had done, so I slipped in alongside him and whispered softly, "You're next." I stood by to watch as he placed his order. 

With sandwich bag and briefcase in one hand, his service animal's harness in the other, this blind man continued at a brisk pace through the mall corridor, turning corners, going up and down steps. Finally, he arrived at his next destination, which was Starbucks. I stood by just outside the entrance as he walked in and took his place in line. This time he would have to wait his turn in a very long line since no one stepped aside for him. I wondered, "Would he have stayed had he been able to see how long the line was for coffee?" Unfortunately, it was me who couldn't stay long enough to see the end of his journey. I believe, however, that I'd seen what God intended when he arranged this divine appointment for me.

Watching this blind man move with such poise through his daily routine despite not being able to see was a lesson for me in blind faith. Although he couldn't see, this blind man had faith in his service animal to lead him around unseen obstacles and get him safely to his destination. He didn't hesitate, question or otherwise doubt that his dog would do his job. Blindness didn't hinder him because he knew his dog could see even if he couldn't and would take care of  him. His belief enabled this blind man to move resolutely toward his goals each day. I doubt if there is ever a morning that he wakes up and says to himself, "I can't go out today because I can't see." 

Physical and spiritual blindness

We depend on sight more than any of our other senses. You might even say we have more faith in what we see than in what we can't. There's a familiar saying, "I'll believe it when I see it." How many of us have said this about something we thought to be impossible, incredible or unlikely? To be physically blind is one thing; to be spiritually blind is quite another. Jesus spoke out against the spiritual blindness of his day, while healing many who were physically or spiritually blinded. When Jesus cured one, it cured the other. 

Spiritual blindness is also prevalent in today's world, and prevents many people from believing the gospel when they hear it.
  

"For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, 

so that everyone who believes in Him

 will not perish but have eternal life.

 God did not send his Son into the world 

to condemn it, but to save it...

I assure you, those who listen to my message

 and believe in God who sent me,

 have eternal life. 

They will never be condemned for their sins,

 but have already passed from death into life"

 (John 3:16-17, 5:24, NLT).

Jesus spoke those words concerning himself. Since Jesus is the "Living Word," his words have power to heal and to save anyone who believes in him. "Do you believe?" is the question he asked of the blind, lame and sick before he healed them. Their faith made all the difference in their outcome. The Bible explains it this way:

"But without faith it is impossible to please and be satisfactory to Him. For whoever would come near to God must [necessarily] believe that God exists and that He [rewards] those who diligently and earnestly seek Him [out]" (Hebrews 11:6, AMP). 

The blind man in this story exhibited absolute trust in his dog to be his daily guide and companion. In the same way, God is an ever-present guide and companion of those who trust in Him. This same God, the creator of the Universe, is always available to receive anyone who comes to Him for salvation through faith in Jesus Christ. No other religion can make the claim that you can have a personal relationship with God. The Bible points to many infallible proofs that Jesus was sent to pave the way to God for us. More than 2,000 years have passed since Jesus walked this earth. The good news is Jesus is still opening blind eyes.  

ד  שְׁמַע, יִשְׂרָאֵל:  יְהוָה אֱלֹהֵינוּ, יְהוָה אֶחָד.